Feng Shui

A few weeks ago my friend and I went grocery shopping. The grocery store that we went to had a floral section with all types of plants. I told her that I had been wanting to add some greenery to my house. This was because someone had given me a plant a month ago and I fell in love with caring for it. I liked the feeling of nurturing something.When my friend and I got to the plants section I got so excited! I wanted something simple, pretty and low maintenance.

Amidst all the plants I saw, I found a really “leafy” one with the branches intertwined. I saw that it was called a “money tree” and brings “good fortune.” That honestly didn’t grab my attention though. It was just how cool the plant itself looked. I bought it and brought it home. That night when I was going to bed, I heard the word “feng shui (pronounced fung shwey)” in my spirit. I thought to myself, “feng shui?” As I went to my room, the meaning came to me. Feng shui is commonly intertwined with the word balance when one is referring to rooms. I felt as if a light bulb went off in my head. I realized that the plant I bought was commonly used by people looking for “feng shui/ balance and positive energy in their home or office space.If you’re like me, you probably watch a lot of interior designing.  You’ll often hear the designer use the term “feng shui”. They talk about how items in a room should be balanced. Meaning if you have 2 flower pots on a table and one is too far back while the other is too far in front, it throws the “balance” off. If you have certain elements near each other that weren’t supposed to be (earth, metals, wood, etc) it could affect the energy in your room. I didn’t realize until that night how deep this thing was. Some people really can’t function when something in the room is off “balance.” 
Disclaimer: I am not one who studies feng shui or really spends time in creating “balance” in my home. So the fact that all the pieces of a puzzle I was unfamiliar with came together, meant that I needed to understand something. That night before bed, I renounced every tradition and balance ritual this kind of plant was commonly intended for. I placed it right on my window sill and went to bed. 

Some people may have returned the plant, or even go as far as burning it (to each his own). But I know WHO created the plant and WHO is bigger than any ritual, practice, law, or ancient tradition. Jesus is all I need to keep me balanced and give me peace. Trust me, I would have lost it a long time ago if He wasn’t what was keeping me.

To the person reading this blog searching for something or someone to give you peace, I promise you that Jesus Christ can give you what you’re looking for. In fact, the bible says “He IS the prince of peace.” (Isaiah 9:6-7 KJV) I know I mention Jesus in just about every blog (irrevocable church girl, I know) but I can only offer YOU what helps ME. I’ve also met someone who shared her personal story about transitioning from new age to Christianity. In her video, she shares her personal experiences with Feng shui and other practices she’d previously followed. I will attach her video down below. Thank you Marissa for sharing your experience with us and allowing me to share it as well!


Heart Check

Happy new month guys! We made it. Thank you for also stopping by to read another blog! We are in the eight month of the year and eight means “new beginnings.” New beginnings can  signify many things, but for me (in this specific season), it’s going to be a spiritual refresh. Last month was hectic (in good ways). My best friend got married (Shout out to the Charltons). Another set of my close friends got married (much love to the Solomons.) My birthday was also last month and many other exciting things happened. In the midst of all that, God had really been teaching me about taking care of the “total person: spiritual, physical, mental/emotional). I did a blog post last month on body detoxes and why they are good for you. Check it out for good detox ideas.

Even though July had been a good month, there were bumps and hurdles here and there; things to test my faith, but God brought me through them. On the week of my birthday, God spoke to me about checking my heart. I was entering a new chapter of my life and I had to with a healthy heart; which leads to what I wanna discuss today.

Valentine's Day: Why the heart icon looks nothing like a human organ

Now for my “question of the day”: When you hear the word heart what comes to your mind? Do you think of it’s anatomical function; the way it operates in the physical body? Or do you think of “feelings” or “emotion?”  Growing up, I always thought the human heart was exactly how we see it on a Valentine’s Day card: a bright cherry red figure with the 2 rounded tops connected, and pointy bottom (the love symbol). I thought that my feelings were actually coming from my physical heart. The heart anciently has been known as the center of all emotions. Whenever a person “ feels someway about someone or something, it’s traditionally said to be “coming from the heart.” When a person expresses how they’re feeling, “ they speak from the heart.” Even though our emotions come from the brain, adrenaline caused by anger, fear or love can cause our heart to pump harder.  Today we will talk about the “heart” based on this premise.

Every now and then it’s good to do a “heart check.” Ask yourself How is my heart feeling towards people around me and towards situations I might currently be facing? When something doesn’t go your way or someone does you wrong, what is your reaction?

The devil plays on the posture of your heart. He knows when you are bitter, angry, happy, emotional, etc. So he will use fitting situations to mess with you. He comes to steal, kill and destroy, but that doesn’t mean he will always take an aggressive approach. For example, the devil likes to “magnify” things. He makes the smallest things seem SO BIG. Someone could have innocently passed you without saying good morning, but because your heart is in a bitter place, it seems like a personal offense. You begin disliking the person or saying why he or she is envious of you. Check your heart right there. The devil will boldly lie in your face and make you believe that something so absurd is true, check your heart again. He will make you feel like everyone is against you (even though some actually may be), check your heart. He comes to divide, break up and destroy good things whether that be your focus, your relationships, your business and just about anything. The way you respond to him determines where your heart is.

So De’Shanti, how do I go about checking my heart? Well I’ll tell you. Start reading the bible a little more. I know that sounds cliche. If you grew up in a Caribbean Christian home and you told your parents about any struggle you were facing, they would have said “Guh read yuh bible” lol. But seriously, it applies to this situation, I promise! The bible says in Psalms 119:9 (KJV) Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word. So the bible can literally help you with words of wisdom that can correct the condition of you heart. It’s a beautiful thing when you can read a story from the old testament, or an epistle from the new testament and see yourself in that literature. Meditating on God’s word keeps you alert and gives you peace.

We all can admit to falling off from reading the word sometimes. It can be due to distractions, being busy with life, etc. The fact of the matter is, we NEED the word of God in our hearts to shed light on our path and to help us cleanse our ways. We can find ourselves in some dirty situations when our heart gets out of control. The word of God will purify our hearts and make us better people.

Detox Ideas 💡

Hey family ! So I mentioned in my last blog that I would share detox waters and other things that helped me. So here they are!

1.) Cucumber water

  • anti inflammatory agents
  • helps with weight loss
  • keeps internal and external body hydrated
  • antioxidant agents

2.) Strawberry Mint and Cucumber Water

strawberries are high in vitamin C, and fiber,

Mint has anti inflammatory agents and also is good for soothing the bowels. It is full of nutrients, it promotes digestion and relieves the feeling of fatigue.

You can also add lemons or lime if you’d like.

3.) Lemon water

This is one of my most used detox waters. It’s good to have hot lemon water first thing in the morning. It’s a great way to get things moving in your body. It also serves as a rich antioxidant drink. You can add Apple cider vinegar and cayenne pepper for more benefits and a kick of flavor.

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In a perfect world, life would flow the way we want it to all the time. We would blissfully wake up in the morning, plan out our day, do what’s required  of us, enjoy our down time, spend time with family and friends, go to bed, get back up and start all over again. We would smile and everything would be ok. Nothing would break or ruin our routine; things would just flow. We would have holistic wellness all the time… in a perfect world.

But reality is, life doesn’t always work as smoothly as we want it to, when we want it to. This can be for many reasons. Things happen! But we as people also have our factors we play. We tend to get burned out or even slow down. There can be many contributors to this. Whether something is repetitive, or we’ve lost interest, or we are simply exhausted, somewhere along the line our balance is off. I want to focus on exhaustion today. 

When we feel exhausted, our body is usually talking to us. Here’s something I’ve learned: when every part of what makes up a person (physical, mental, spiritual, social) is well, the person is holistically well. Just because a person isn’t sick, doesn’t mean they are well on a holistic scheme. Sometimes the mind is in an unhealthy or exhausted state. Sometimes our spiritual life is too. We should strive to make an equal amount of time for all parts of ourselves. Learn to take breaks. But anyways, that’s for another blog post.

More times than not, our physical wellness is the issue. Overexerting ourselves can cause the body to be tired. However, a lot of times it’s the things we consume that slow us down. For me personally, this was the case. 

I had been off for 2 months from my job during the pandemic. While I was home, I had more time to cook my own food, clear my mind, body, and spirit. I was able to unload in my space and before God. Then May came rolling around, and a lot of things started picking back up in my life again. A lot of restarts and new beginnings. For one, when I started working again, I would get up early in the mornings. I went back to drinking coffee. I started loading up on junk to get me through the  day.  I drank less water because I was so busy at work. Before I knew it. I was retaining unwanted weight, and feeling so sluggish. On my days off, whenever I tried getting work done around the house, 30 min breaks turned into 1hr -2hr breaks. 

In my very first blog, I shared with my readers that God talks to me through dreams. Sometimes, I get those dreams and I immediately know to pray for others. Sometimes God shows me things that end up happening. Other times, He talks to me, about ME. In the dream, I held a big clear vase full of water. There was a lady assisting other people. She seemed to be some type of specialist. She gave me something to test the water I had inside the vase. When I poured the solution in the water (vinegar and witch hazel), the water turned black.) I STILL tried using the water but I quickly wised up and took heed to the fact that I couldn’t operate like that anymore. When I woke up, I immediately knew what to do. God told me to do a detox for my body. A lot of times, we think of God as one who only cares about our spiritual beings. While it is an important factor, He cares a lot about our physical body. If we don’t take the time to cleanse our bodies, we won’t function the way He created us to.

In my next blog, I’ll share some ways I chose to detox my body and what helped. I’ll tell you though, it evidently changed the way I functioned. In just one week, my thoughts were clear, I had more energy and felt happier.

I encourage you to take time for YOU. You can only help others as much as you help yourself. Slow down and figure out what part of you needs the detox: mental, spiritual, physical or social. We are in the second half of a hectic, trying, crazy year. As we pick back up, let’s do it the right way. Time to detox!

What’s In My Cup

I have been battling to post this blog for a while now but today is the day. Someone out there needs it. May that someone find this blog. 

I’m not the average “drinker” or wine and alcohol specialist, but I’ve often heard and sometimes have used the term, “what’s in my cup stays in my cup.” It’s a way of jokingly saying mind your business when you don’t want people to know what you’re drinking, or you want them to be in suspense. Those people may have an idea that you’re drinking, but they don’t know for sure. They’ll most likely assume it’s something really “strong.”
As silly and simple as that phrase sounds, it can leave an unwanted lingering trace of curiosity in someone’s mind. 

You all know my mind couldn’t simply stop there. I always have to think deeper…thanks a lot brain. As each individual goes through life, we experience many things. These things shape us into the person we become. Whether we like the sound of that or not, it’s true. 

You may have been raised in a household that doesn’t eat meat so initially when you come across a person eating curried goat or oxtails (me) then you would think they are strange. That’s ok. You might see someone who is absolutely optimistic and happy about everything that comes their way, while you may be more of a realist because your parents told you that life isn’t always peaches and roses, it gets tough. That’s also ok. That’s what makes each individual special; we are all different.

Here is where things are not ok. Someone was  physically abused or saw their mom endure physical abuse from their dad, so they grow up with trust issues. Someone else may have been abandoned or given up for adoption so now they feel like they are not worth anything. Maybe someone was lied on CONSTANTLY, so now their inner voice and defense system is gone.

There is an invisible cup that your heart carries. In instances like these, that cup is filled with rejection and lack of trust, no self worth and bitterness. These are all things that make your “drink” bitter and poisonous. You think you’re keeping it private because “What’s in your cup, stays in your cup” right? Wrong. 

Sooner or later, actions start to indicate what’s really in that cup. Time tells all things. You can differentiate a person drinking water versus a person drinking alcohol. Someone sipping on wine throughout the night or “downing” bottle after bottle of liquor soon starts to act differently. They may become more aggressive, or start laughing a lot. Some might say silly things or even vomit if it’s too much for their system to handle.

That’s exactly what happens when you drink from a bitter cup. Your actions will show what was really “in your cup.” Because of the abuse you endured, you can’t allow anyone who is willing to love you, to do so. Because of being constantly put down and humiliated, it’s hard to accept compliments or even corrections when done in love. You retaliate a lot easier than someone who doesn’t have a cup full of hurt, rejection, painful memories, anger and the list goes on.

I was like that. Until one day, I told someone “what was in my cup.” I’ve been liberated ever since. That same man is going around asking “what’s in your cup.” When He comes by, don’t only tell Him, but give it to Him. His name is Jesus. Sounds so cliche but it’s factual. He said to His Father that in-spite of how He felt, He would still drink from that bitter cup. THAT cup was full of sin. It was so bitter. So dirty and bad tasting. But he was the only one found worthy to drink it. Because He was worthy, He is still going around taking bitter drinks and giving out good ones instead. In that drink, there is love, healing , peace and everything you’ll need for repairing your heart. I don’t know who you are or where you are but I’m asking you today on God’s behalf, what’s in your cup?

The Total Wife

I just want to say to all the males reading this blog, PLEASE don’t come off this blog post, this pertains to you too😊. Now I know what you’re thinking but before you judge, read on lol. When you think of the word wife, what comes to mind? Take a moment and think about it. I’ll tell you what I think. I think of a woman who has got it all together. Scheduled days, good at planning ahead, knows her way around the house, has an idea where exactly everything goes, someone who cleans, whose loving and so on.

But about 2 months ago, God changed my perspective just a little bit. I was walking while on my break and He asked me what a wife was. I gave him those same characteristics I listed above. In a way I was right, but I missed out on a lot. He brought me to Proverbs 31 verses 10 – 31 which talks about the virtuous woman (wife). He showed me all of her business traits, critical thinking skills, and her strategic planning for her family. But this is what He said that blew my mind: You have to be my wife before you can ever be the “total wife.” Meaning that our relationship to God is that of a husband and wife.

So for the men that are still reading guess what? You have to learn to be a wife to God. Doesn’t that sound weird? I have to admit, I laughed a little bit at that one. In order for you to fully appreciate your wife (or wife to be), you must be one to God. The bible shows  us in many ways that we are the “bride of Christ.” That means more than just being espoused to him and dressing up as a bride. It also means house keeping, being healthy and making sure your family is healthy, it means submission, love and much more. I’ll break it down in spiritual references

A wife is generally the keeper of the home. I’m in no way being derogatory when I say this, but I’ve always heard the term “the husband provides the house, but the wife provides the home.” There is something special about the delicate touch of a wife on her home. Roles can alternate during this time we are living in, but traditionally, the wife will clean up. As a wife to God, (man or woman), we have to know how to clean up our spiritual homes. What is in your house (spiritual house) that you need to get rid of? Our body is the temple of God. Meaning he’s the “man of the house.” While we are keepers of our physical home, we have to be keepers of our spiritual home as well (both male and female).

Know when it’s time to de-clutter. Is there too much junk in the closet of your heart? Declutter! What about under your bed? Declutter. Does the house smell funny? Take out the garbage. Wash the dishes. Remember, it is God’s temple as well.

Know when it’s time to add, to touch up and to refresh. I am big on DIY interior designing. I love the feeling of freshness and a new look. Well sometimes in our spiritual body, we have been the same for years. Does the walls of your heart need a paint job? Time to add to yourself. Pick up a good study bible and treat yourself. Invest in christian books to help you grow in faith and in God. Make a prayer closet or space anywhere and pray there. Do some fasting and prayer with purpose.” Do something to “spruce up your marriage” as some of my friends would say.

Know what to feed your “body.” As a wife, you have to think about what is healthy for yourself, and your family. You can’t constantly be feeding on junk. What do you feed your spiritual man? A little social media is good here and there, watching a netflix movie and getting comfy in bed is nice, but what else? Try to read the word of God. Try to study what He wants to say to you. Then you will be “healthy.” Spend time with Him.

Here is the big one: know how to submit. Anyone (both male and female) can find it hard to submit at times. Submitting to yourself, submitting to parents and to each other. The bible says that the wife should submit herself to her husband. Meaning, have respect for Him and honor what He says even if sometimes you don’t see the need fully yet. That’s how God tests the integrity of a wife; through submission. The big “S” word isn’t a joke. It’s hard to do sometimes. But it takes an intentional mind. It makes you stronger as a person. That’s very ironic isn’t it? When someone thinks of submission, they think of being weak, when actually, practicing to submit to the will of God makes you a very strong individual.

Guess what men? You have to submit too! Maybe not to your physical wife (being that God deemed you the leader [still honoring her]), but you should submit to God. Remember, you are also His “bride.” He will tell us to go places or do things that may sometimes be outside of our comfort zone, but that’s what marriage is about. Trust! Trust that your spouse won’t lead you through a darker road that he wouldn’t walk. Trust God, and know that it’s for your good.

I told you in my last blog that our God is a personal one. He loves His people and He loves His bride. We are the bride of Christ and we have to do that which is required of one.


The Personal God

It’s amazing to me how big God is. His Spirit fills the entire universe. The Bible tells us that His thoughts and His ways are so much higher than ours. They transcend our thoughts and ways. There is no way to study or figure out His mind or the way He does things. All we have to do is does work with Him and leave it alone. It’s marvels me though, how a BIG God like Him, can be so personal. By personal, I mean He makes time for everyone and is able to individuate between us! He cares about us . What other god would take the time out to create his people, then turn around and die for them because of love? What god would have billions of people and things existing at once, but still knows each name individual and EVEN how many hairs are on each head? Only our God is like that.

This took me off guard the other day. I was reading a bible plan around noon and reflecting on was it spoke about. It referred to God as our “sanctifier (Jehovah Mekkadesh)”, meaning He calls us and separates us to himself. So not only does He generally care about each and every individual who ever walked this earth, but He also goes a step further, by sanctifying them when they give their lives to Him.

It reminds me of a bride on her wedding day. No matter how many beautiful women walk into the ceremony, all the attention is on the bride. That day, she specifically wears a perfume she has never worn before. She gets a little more “dressed up and beautiful” than normal. She shops for her dress months in advance (well usually the organized ones do lol). She fixes her hair in a style she probably wouldn’t going to the gym or on the street. She is dressed in white. All of these things solely point her out as namely, the bride.

Well God sees us as that bride. The world also sees us as the bride as well. You may not have a white dress on, a ring, or may not even be “done up” as a bride would, but you are distinctive to the worlds eye. Your presence and your characteristics are louder than the clothes you wear. The way you carry yourself tells them you aren’t “on the market.” Why? Because God sanctified you. He made you different. Maybe you can’t even understand why you’re different. Well that same BIG God whose ways we can’t fathom, is the same God who knows you personally. He put you on the potter’s wheel and was spinning and shaping you into who you are now. HE did that! When you  talk to that BIG God the next time, thank Him. Thank Him for being personal and tending to you one on one. Thank Him for being intentional when it comes to blessing you. Thank Him for seeing you as His bride.

It IS Well

“Peace in the midst of the storm”; a phrase I’ve always heard growing up. Until I experienced it, it was meaningless to me. Today I can truly say, Jesus gave me a supernatural sense of peace in the middle of a storm.  Jesus IS our “peace!” I was reading my bible when a heaviness came over me. I had gotten news about a friend that I didn’t want to hear, and being the human I am, I got worried. Immediately I began to pray and this prayer was different from the ones I had done in a while. I began to intercede. In the midst of that, I got up and began to worship. I heard the words “IT IS WELL” in my spirit. I started to shout it out. Then I heard Psalms 41. It coincided with what I prayed for.pencil

When you have a relationship with God, He teaches you to say it is well. Believing things are well in the midst of CHAOS is called faith. It makes you look crazy to this world. As christians, we need to get to that place in God, that if God says it is well, IT IS WELL. We have to believe it. We are going against the grain (according to non believers) but we were already going against it in the first place when we gave our lives to Christ. In psalms 41, David comforts Himself by God’s inspiration. He says ” 1. Blessed is he that considerate (blessed) the poor: the Lord will deliver him in time of trouble. 2. The Lord will preserve him, and keep him alive; and he shall be blessed upon the earth: and thou (you) wilt not deliver him unto the will of his enemies.”

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It is the will of the enemy for you to die and to suffer. Why? Because you belong to GOD! Anyone who belongs to God is the devil’s prized possession. If he can’t have you, then he will want to kill you. But take solace in the Word of the LORD. Psalms 91 says “He that dwells in the secret place of the Most High, shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.” If you don’t know JESUS, Get to know Him now. Only under His shadow (His presence), do you have full covering. I’m not only talking about covering concerning the Corona virus. I know that there are thousands of people who have recovered and are not a christian. But there is a day coming that will bring on the earth, worse than any virus can bring. This that is currently going on is nothing compared to the day of the Lord. Do you know Jesus? I am not usually this pressed, when writing, on preaching salvation. I like for people to find Christ by revelation through my blogs, but I am really pressed today to let someone know that Jesus is coming back. Today isn’t the day that I usually post, but I had to do this. Please don’t be afraid to comment or email me regarding more information. This is not a hoax or a cult. I will in know way do anything for my fame. But I do want to win souls for Christ and share the opportunity for others to feel the love and joy I feel knowing Christ.

Today, if you know Christ, say within yourself, IT IS WELL. Pray and believe God for what you asked for. Also keep your eyes opened and your heart ready to receive His promises. ANYTHING God promises WILL come to pass. He told us that He doesn’t lie. If you DON’T know Christ, let this be your day to know Him. Come to Him, because He said He is a rewarder to them that diligently seek Him. Again, feel free to email me or reach out for information.


ONE Touch

I have a decent tolerance level when it comes to pain. I can bear it, but I don’t like feeling it. Whether back pain or stomach pain, headache–just about any pain, I hate it. Then again, who ever really “likes” the feeling of pain? 

Some people are able to endure pain until it’s gone while others may take a painkiller to rid it right away. Either way, we are all hoping that the pain will go away. I’m the type to take a pill to get rid of the pain. But what really does a pill do? Does it rid the actual problem or does it only temporarily subside the effect (pain)?

Have you ever had pain and took a painkiller hoping it would rid the problem, but as soon as it wears off you feel pain again? Yea, me too. So here’s a little pharmaceutical knowledge I gained in college: the painkiller’s purpose is to silence the “sensation of pain” for an extended period of time. These painkillers are also known as analgesics. When the analgesic wears off, your pain receptors start to realize that the pain is there and sends signals to your nervous system. You then begin to react because you feel the pain again. Even though there was an analgesic effect on the pain receptors, the analgesic didn’t actually “fix” the problem. For that reason, the pain may come again. In some cases, there isn’t always an easy way to attack the source of a situation. However, in most cases, there is a way. For example, catching salmonella. You may need fluids and an antibiotic to kill the microorganism causing the illness and eventually the pain.

Where are you even going with this De’Shanti? Until we fully heal from what’s causing pain, it will always come back. In regards to our spiritual life, God’s power is the only thing that can attack the source and the pain we feel from it. His touch alone makes a difference. Maybe you aren’t feeling physical pain, but did you know that you can spiritually, emotionally, and mentally feel pain? Pains like rejection, pain of neglect, pain of verbal and physical abuse, pain of anger, pain from bitter memories and so much more. It is time for healing. If God did it in my life, I know He can do it for you. He can do it with just one touch. When it’s all said and done, God would have not only taken away the pain, but He would also take away the underlying cause. What do I mean by that? Well for example. There may be a person who hates every authoritative male figure that comes in his/her life, whether it’s the doctor, teacher, uncle, boss or principal, because their own father was severely abusive, verbally and physically. Can you see how that can cause a snowball effect? One thing connects to the other. God can take away that pain, by allowing that person to face the source (their father) and dealing with it there. Maybe that person can’t face their father because he is in jail, or dead. He can take you in and be the father that you didn’t have. He can take those pains. In fact, He already did. God took FULL responsibility for the sins of every man who ever lived on earth and those who will come in the future. He bore the sins of that abusive father. Now all He wants is your healing. And let me say this, God allows us to go through pain for us to realize that HE alone is our healer. He also will let your situation help someone else along the way. Even if we suffer after all of it is over, He still gets glory. We are not exempt from suffering, because God didn’t even spare essentially HIMSELF (Jesus). He suffered by dying for our sins, and suffers everyday from us rejecting Him. Yet He still loves us and He is still sovereign.

With one touch from Jesus, your life could change forever. What pain have you been tolerating for just too long? Have you said to yourself, “I can bear this, I’m used to the weight of my pains”? Take my advice, start your healing process today. It takes only one touch. Open your heart to the Lord. He is the only God that promises love and care to his people. There’s an old hymn called Tis the Blessed Hour of Prayer that says “With a sympathizing heart, He removes every care.” He’s a merciful God. Believe when you call on His name.


Today is the day I’m supposed to be burying my grandfather. He died a few weeks ago in Jamaica. Unfortunately, with all the craziness going on concerning the COVID-19 pandemic, I am not able to travel to Jamaica. I am sad, but to be honest, I’m not extremely downhearted or somber about the situation. My grandfather and I didn’t have the relationship that I wish we did. We were not close. The hardest part of this for me was seeing my mom the way she was. She lost her DAD! Though they may not have been on the same page sometimes, he was still her dad!

When you have a relationship with someone, their life means much more to you than when you don’t have a relationship. That’s why if one wants to be a true follower of Jesus, they should develop a relationship with Him and follow Him whole heartedly. True Christians value Jesus’s life and death because they have a relationship with Him. If you think about it, we’ve never physically met Jesus in flesh, but we get so emotional thinking about His death. We appreciate all He did in his life. Why? Because we can develop our connection with Him through the word of God and through the HolySpirit. We get upset when people talk negatively of Him or dismiss the idea of His existence BECAUSE we KNOW Him. When you know someone, you can defend them. You can talk on their behalf. You can say what the individual would do and what they wouldn’t do.

At my bridal shower, my bridesmaids hosted a game. In the game, they asked questions about things I liked and disliked; about my favorite color and my favorite food. Even though I knew everyone at the bridal shower, and I knew they all meant me well, not everyone knew those little details about me. You can know and love someone and not have a relationship with them.

If there was some way I could go back and change my relationship with my grandpa, I would. We never had an issue, he just wasn’t in my life. What matters now is cherishing the ones you love and still have life. Even if people don’t always reach out and do their part, we should try to do ours. The most important relationship however, is the one you have with Jesus. That is the only relationship that can continue in the life after this. No matter how much we love people, we won’t always be with them. That’s why we should love and appreciate them while we have them. However, Jesus will be with us forever (if we live a righteous life) and will know exactly who we are even after we put on immortal bodies. I encourage you, develop your relationship with Him. If you don’t have one, start today. He is the best friend, guide, comfort, father that anyone could ever have. Im not saying that because I know of Him, Im saying that because I have a relationship with Him. He knows you, but do you know Him?